Author: sekhrikush11

Once you found yourself in darkness, it scares you. It makes you furious and your eyes are desperate to see light once again. You are desperate about hope and courage. For some people is the end of their lives but, for others, it’s a matter of stepping up and bring meaning once again in their lives. When I say what’s next, it means when we mess up with our lives, instead of playing the game of blaming we need to think that, if I continue with the negative behaviour in present, it might affect my future in a drastic way. So, we have choices to make. Some tough choices to make like what’s next? Should I continue with my negative attitude or should I make some core changes and if I stick to some good changes, I might do well in my life and have some sort of satisfaction. No one is perfect. Everyone got their flaws. If you hurt someone in your life and you genuinely realized that, I messed up then, your inner voice will compel you to improve your mistake. You can genuinely try and make peace deal with your loved ones. You can do your best to resolve the issues but, don’t be nihilistic when you are taking care of the chaos of your life. Sometimes you have to leave things on time and with time wounds heal. All you can just try with good intentions and leave everything on the universe. When things are not going according to the plan, instead of thinking negative in terms of what’s going to happen? We need to stay positive. I know that, when an adversity takes place, it’s impossible to think positive at that time. I get it but, being just negative the whole process is also not doing any good. Probably it’s providing more damage to your inner voice than you can possibly think of. Negative things do come in my mind and I’m sure it comes in your mind too but, turning negativity into positivity is a big challenge for everyone. As long as we believe in fundamentals of life like seeking truth, revering God and humble in our actions we can turn any problem into some meaning. So, I wanna to ask you this- if you are in a problem, if you think that your life is a hell and there’s nothing else then, I would like you to look around you. Look up into the sky and pray with all the strength and courage of your soul. Pray for good. When you are not in doubts only one thing happens and that is the ‘next phase’ of your life just gets better. So, what’s next? Meaning or suffering. I hope that, you go for meaning. Humbleness or evilness? I hope you go for  humbleness. Truth or lies? i want you to seek truth. What’s next? Make your choice!

I need you more than any one else in my life. I need you God. My faith in you is just getting stronger and stronger. My faith in you is getting better and better. I’m grateful for everything you have done in my life. I am writing this blog post more for me than for anyone else. I don’t know about you but, when things don’t go right I just go to my desk and pick up the Bible and start reading it. I can only tell you this ever since, I have gone back to God, I have shown more trust on people. I have made more genuine connections with people. I’m sure that, It wasn’t that easy but, when I look at back I can say to you without hesitation, the more I trust God, the more beautiful things happen to me in my life. I know that, life is tricky. It is difficult but, the more I explore you in me, the more life is becoming meaningful to me. You played a role in my birth. You sent me on this planet to justify my existence. I’m forever grateful to you. I know that, I’m not perfect. I did mistakes in my life. Some of them were big and some were small. I am also not sure about my future so, I leave everything on you. I will do my actions only and I leave the results upon you. Whatever verdict you give me, I will accept it with Grace. Help me God to face my life. Help me to follow the path of righteousness. Help me to keep having faith in you in-spite of the fact that, life is not always fair. I know that, God you don’t want me to be weak or nihilistic. I also know that, you want me to face up the problems and take care of the humble responsibilities of my life. With all the strength and courage of my soul and heart, I will continue to worship you and I surrender myself to you completely. So, help me God!

Control, control and control the more we try to manage something, the more it runs away. The more we desire about things, the more desperate we become. There’s no doubt that, people who got most of the power/authority have sleepless nights. In this blog post, we need to understand that, there’s some mysterious force above us that is in charge of our lives. By saying that, not everything is in our control doesn’t mean that, chaos will overwhelm our lives. For instance, if someone is having toxic habits of drinking and smoking, it doesn’t mean that, he can’t control it. Over and over again, I have said that, we got freedom of choice. We are humans and we are above animals cause, we have the ability to create and build. We have ability to think about future. If you choose for bad things, guess what? Your life becomes more and more toxic. Maybe, we are free to make decisions and some decisions we make them under pressure but, we have the authority to make those decisions but, after making the decisions, it generally doesn’t mean that, results will be on our side all the times. No! Everything is not in our control is not just a statement. If you dive deeper into the phrase, it’s basically saying that actions and rewards do not always go hand in hand. It doesn’t mean that, our actions/ efforts are meaningless and we just sit on our butt and do nothing. What’s the profound message? We have control over actions but, there are natural laws above us and results are not in our hands all the times. Does it mean that, if we do something good and good things will happen and if good things don’t happen we can blame God or the universe for making our lives tragic hell? Sure, you can do that. You are free to make your choices. Things happen. Accidents take place. We loose our loved ones. People commit crimes. Bad things happen to good people. It doesn’t mean that, we should start promoting evilness in our lives. Your inner voice (your soul) won’t let it happen to you. That’s why, when we do something bad we regret ourselves and feel guilty about it even though we try to hide it under different layers. What we can really take from the statement is that, we control our actions but, we don’t control the outcomes. Nature does/ the universe does. Whatever the nature decides, I will accept the fate with grace! I would work like everything is dependent on me but, I would pray like everything dependent on God! All I can ask for the courage and strength to accept His verdict!

Strength and courage are not words. They define hope and faith. No matter how hard is the life, do not wish for ‘I don’t wanna to face any more problems’ pray for more strength & courage. In this blog post, we need to get deeper into the meaning of strength and courage. When we talk to the God, we often wish more rather than praying. It’s completely naive to think that, life is not full of challenges. There are challenges but, guess what? Human beings got special powers. We got ability to think. We can find solutions of the problems. Problems don’t disappear overnight. It requires a lot of efforts. When we pray to God and ask Him that, we don’t want to face any challenges. I believe that, it’s just a wishful thinking. God has no control over problems. God got no control over illness either. He doesn’t want people to be evil. He wants us to face problems with courage and strength. If you look at the history, the world has always faced problems. We witnessed countless numbers of wars and natural calamities. If you think that, natural calamities, wars and crimes are going to stop magically then, good luck with that! Although crimes against humanity have come down significantly and most of the people do care about each other. The world has more good people than the bad ones. The reason we focus on the bad stuff cause, our brains are wired in such a way that, it wanna to make sure no physical harm to go unseen. As I said there are some bad deeds in the world so, should we just stop praying and become part of evilness? No that’s not the solution. If there’s illness we got doctors. If there’s violence then sure, we got some really good cops working day and night. If there’s violation of rights of civilians then sure, we got justice( it takes time though). We got solutions of all most every problem on this living planet. I would also like to say that, God has given us freedom of choice. We are free to make decisions. We are free to bring either happiness or sadness. We are free to improve the lives of others and we have the choice of how much evil we can bring into lives of others. We are free to curse our lives or Cherish our lives even though life is not perfect. I didn’t make these rules. Nature does! So, when you are faced with darkness. I would like you to go back to your source and pray to God for more strength and courage.

I hate to break you this but, men and women are not the same. They are not equal and can never be equal. If you are a radical leftist you might not like the blog post but have the courage to read the post hopefully by the end of this post, you would welcome new ideas and look the world with new perspective. Let me start by saying men and women are different. They are biologically different. They are physically, emotionally and mentally different. Women got xx set of chromosomes and men got XY set of chromosomes. Generally, men are physically more stronger than women. During the conversation men give more importance to reasons than emotions. I’m not saying that emotions are not important. They are. We must strive for emotional relationships with people who are associated with us. It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or a woman. Generally speaking men have hard time in forming good emotional relationships with others than women do. Since we have different personalities, men and women play a different role based on their personalities. A man’s role is to protect, provide and lead his family with his humble actions. Woman’s role is to be compassionate, caring, support her man’s goals and inspires him to achieve his potential. Woman’s role is to cherish her feminine qualities to bring love into the family. I don’t know but, in the west we have forgotten the roles of men and women. I’m in the full support of women’s freedom. They must be given the support emotionally and financially to make them aware about their role as a female. We are doing something else. The leftist politicians are creating an atmosphere where they are encouraging women to be more arrogant and compete with fellow men. We are encouraging radical feminism movement and trying to destroy young women lives by forcing them to hate men. That’s unacceptable. It’s shameful to see that, young people can’t tell the difference between a man and a woman. That’s a shame! A man can be physically strong but, women are mentally and emotionally stronger than men. We need to have stability in the world and without caring and compassionate women it’s impossible to do that. With young men they need to be responsible and instead of looking for just pleasure they need to find meaning. Meaning of life is found in taking care of their humble responsibilities, lift and inspire others. A woman brings stability in man’s life and a man brings meaning in woman’s world. A man brings reasons to a woman’s life whereas, a woman fills man’s life with emotions. A man protects his woman from physical threats and a woman brings compassion in his life. Man and woman complete one another. They complement

whatever took place yesterday, it just happened. I can’t change it and you can’t change it either. Humans are weird creatures cause, we have the ability to think. We are emotional creatures. Emotions/feelings impact us. Even though deep inside us, we know that, yesterday is gone. Nothing can be done about past, we still somehow and someway wanna to keep holding to our past. I know that, having complete control over the emotions are meaningless. If we just restrict our emotions, we are not really human beings anymore. Most of us don’t wanna to give up on past. Ask an Olympian how does it feel to lose in a race of 100 m. He would definitely say to you that, I wish if I had gone for a solid start. After working so hard for 4 years and still you can’t finish in top 3 is a pretty much heartbreaking for any athlete. As an athlete, you have to start again. You have to prepare for another 4 years and you still don’t know about the results. Your bad past breaks you into pieces. It puts so much burden onto your life that, sometimes, it’s just impossible to lift the pressure. I can’t even say to you that, stop thinking about the past. It’s practically impossible to come out of past. It’s impossible to come out of the wonderful memories that you made with your loved ones! When most of us see the things are not going right in our present, you just give up and start living in yesterday. It’s like an addiction that gives us some kind of pleasure for short period and then, suddenly we find ourselves in a hell of pain and suffering. I’m not saying that, you shouldn’t think about past. I’m not even saying to you that, don’t regret of your actions in past. I can’t stop you. Who am I to stop you? You are a human being. You got a freedom of choice. It’s your choice to stay in past or in present. We know the consequences of living too much in past. We deprive ourselves of our present opportunities and happiness. If in any way, I wanna to convince you then, I would like you to do one thing. Just one thing and only you can do it cause, you have a soul of free mind and that is, every time when your past makes call to you, you have to say- yesterday is gone. I just got present. Do not make your life unnecessarily hard. Just don’t do it! Yesterday is gone!

This world is a complex one but a beautiful one. In order to make sure that world keeps on functioning and stay beautiful we need competent and responsible people. We need people who believe in ethical and moral actions to bring good to the universe. In this blog post, we would try to understand about why we need competent & responsible people. We need to know that, who are competent people? Competent people are one who focus their energy into something productive and creative. A competent person is someone who turns his idea into actions and has solution oriented mindset. It’s so easy to write things like competence is the key to make sure that, world keeps afloat most of the time. The real test of competence comes when life gets real hard and when there’s darkness! In order to be a responsible person, you have to go through challenges. You have to go through temporary pain. Who knows that, you might have to face some failures to get better in your life but, that’s what life is all about. A competent person knows that, all he needs to be consistent with his actions and someday his efforts are gonna pay him great success. As I said earlier, this world is a complex world. It got a complex social hierarchy system. Everyone is the part of hierarchy system. This hierarchy system rewards those who have the ability to learn, unlearn and relearn the new ideas and turn those ideas into action. With competence, comes responsibilities and with responsibilities comes great power. No doubt, we had some people who exploited their power in the name of greed but, does it mean that we should not become competent? I would like to remind you that, the world had great leaders like Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr. Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa, who put their competence first and sacrificed themselves to bring good to the world. We need great leaders, politicians, civilians who have solution oriented mindset and improve lives of all of those around them. The world is in desperate need of competent men and women than ever before. It’s so sad to say that some leaders in the west are trying to put end of competence and bringing a system of equality and only God knows how much money they are spending in the name of equality. The world is in need of competence rather than equality. You need best universities, best hospitals, responsible civilians, competent doctors, lawyers, engineers. You name it! You can not turn ordinary people into great in the name of equality. Don’t get me wrong we need all the resources to make someone skilled but, most importantly we need learning mindset and sad to say that, everyone doesn’t have learning mindset. The world needs competent & Responsible people!

Human beings are social creatures. Don’t tell me that, life is short. Average life expectancy in the western world is little over 70 years and 7 decades is a long time on this living planet. Ever since, we are born on this planet, we are always dependent upon someone. An infant is dependent upon his parents. When the person grows little bit older and start having some senses, he starts depending on his family and friends. I don’t know about you but, one of the most useless advice we get from social media is that, become a person who doesn’t need to be dependent on someone. Honest to you, that’s the most rubbish advice you can ever get from someone. One thing you need to know there’s no shame when you need help of someone in your life. The basic purpose of having a family and friends is to get help when you are in a problem. You definitely need someone with you when you are going through tough times. It makes it easy. When I’m talking about friends what I’m trying to say that, you need to stay away from toxic people whose only purpose is to get high as hell on weekends. You definitely not need those friends who have trashy relationships with their families. They have to be at least some degree of responsible in their own lives. I know that, you don’t have the choice to decide your parents but, we are fortunate enough to decide who can be our friends. Why not to make good choices in that respect and instead of just looking for short term pleasure, why not we think for the long term when it comes to forming friendships. I’m not saying that, you need to go out and pick anyone out of the streets and make him your friend nor I’m saying that, you need to have hundreds of thousands of friends but have some decent friends who are competent and responsible enough to push you towards daily improvements in your life. You definitely don’t deserve to have friends whose only purpose is to bring senseless drama in your life. Don’t need drama man… You need friends not drama queens in your life.

Your mind and soul have freedom of choice. It’s a wonderful gift. It’s gift by the creator and we need to take care of it with all the courage and strength of our heart. Just like electricity gives light to the whole world, the same goes with your mind and souls. Your mind and soul generate positive energy and that’s what makes you keep going. It’s a different story when we poison our hearts with doubts, fears and greed but, the true nature of our souls is to remain free and connect it with the universe. Believe me or not but, our inner voice got the ultimate strength and the courage to fight evilness. You know why? Cause our souls are pure. Even if we do something bad or commit a crime we instantly regret or feel guilty about it after doing it even though if we try to hide the fact or the truth but, at the end truth always win. One thing you really need to take away from this blog post is that, you got a solution oriented mind. Even if you have thousands of problems but, if you decide and only you can decide to focus on solutions then, your mind works with free will and force your brain to think about solutions of a particular problem and soon you will start seeing some light. When your mind is desperate to find something it will find it. Our minds have the ability to go beyond the comprehension. Do not ever underestimate the power of will of your mind and soul. There’s a story of eunuch in the book named ‘Richest Man in the Babylon’ who fought with all his strength and courage walked in the desert for days without water to run away from his current life when he was almost about to give up he reminded himself that, he got a will of free mind and make every possible efforts to reach the nearest village to start a new life and pay his debts and go back to his home village. The story is worth reading. When I feel low sometimes I go back to read the story. Our minds can’t think clearly when we are in aggression. I’m not saying that, you need to control your aggression but, we need to channelize our temper by connecting with higher power. We can do that, if we focus our mind on the spiritual needs and be grateful before we go to bed. So, it’s in our hand how we make our mind and soul more courageous When you are faced with adversity remember you got free will and you need to strengthen your will with courage and faith in the universe!

Aggression is such a powerful emotion that’s so hard to express in words. We all have our days when we don’t feel the best. There are some days when we just toss things up in the air, smash things against the wall, cursing goes all day long and thoughts like killing someone come across our mindset. Trust me I have gone through all of this. We all hear about, we need to control our aggression and I l would like to say you that, you don’t need to control your temper! I would like you think how many times your loved ones have told you that, your behaviour is like crazy shit and you need to control it. Take a minute and get back to me. Done thinking? Let me guess the number. It’s countless times when people around you ask you to control your aggression. Let me say that, it’s one of the most bullshit advice you can get from others. Guess what? We listen and for some days we control our aggression and then what? Same blast. No change. We feel shit about ourselves. Is there a better way? The better way to deal with aggression is not by controlling it but, channelizing it. When you try to control something you are basically trying to suppress it. It might give you some positive results for short period but then what? A repressed thing will come harder at you with great force by breaking all the barriers that you formed sometime ago. Any repressed aggression will shake you like an earthquake. It will ruin you like tsunami. It will shatter you into pieces like tornado. Nobody likes when our temper has full control over us. Our temper is like a fire inside us that keeps us going. It’s like an energy to make us doing things in our daily routine. Now imagine if someone asks you to put water and stop that fire that is keeping you going. If you are a wise person you would say no. The only thing you can do is giving a new direction to your aggression. It is to channel it into something productive, something creative. I know that, it so easy to say than do because when you are angry you just don’t realize yourself and lose all your control. You say the things that you don’t wanna to say. You do the things that you don’t wanna to do. When you are done with your aggression you feel ashamed about it. You feel guilty about it. Come on we can all be better than that. What I would like you to do whenever you feel like you are frustrated, you need to realize it. You need to become aware of it. You need to be conscious about the fire that is burning inside you. The moment you realize it, the moment you become aware of your aggression you will find peace. When I say we need to channelize our aggression what I’m trying to say is that instead of focusing on external factors why don’t we let the energy to flow inside instead of making it flow outside? We can use aggression to know ourselves better. We can use it to become more aware about our bodies. We can use it to become more intellectual and spiritual. We have the ability to connect this wonderful energy to the universe (soul) . The universe is not outside but it’s inside us. You might not be hundred percent successful in giving a positive direction to your temper but, you can try. There’s nothing wrong in trying. One thing is sure you will know yourself better.