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Courage to take decision and act upon it is the best thing you can ever do. We think a lot. Everyone likes to have perfect life but, dream of having perfection has made many people sick and depressed. In this blog post, I would like to talk about how perfection is brainwashing us. One bitter pill everyone needs to swallow is that, perfection is an illusion. The more time we spend on social media by taking peek into the perfect things happening in someone’s else life, the more we will become the victim of perfection. I’m not saying that, if something good has happened to your friend for instance, he has lost 30 pounds then, you should be envy of him that’s not a good response. What you need to do is this- any positive change you see in your friend, you should take inspiration from him. Instead of competing with someone why not to compete with yourself? In that case, why not to start going to the gym? You feel good about it. Try it! One of the most satisfying thing we can do is to shun the idea of perfection by focusing on the idea of doing the things to the best of our abilities. Constructive Thinking We don’t need to know about everything of a particular activity/task/goal/ mission. In order to make things adventures and excited, we need to have some suspense that would motivate or inspire us everyday as long as we are performing that particular activity. One rule which I deeply follow is that, if any particular task/goal catches my attention then, I take the initiative to move forward. As I step forward, I see things unfolding in-front of me, I take action accordingly. The goal is to enjoy the task by thinking less and less about making things perfect. At the end, if one thing that you should take away from this blog post is this- perfection is a modern era poison that has destroyed the joy of life. Perfection has killed more lives than any other thing on this living planet. In order to live, we must do the things to the best of our ability.

Mess is a mess. Nobody likes to be in pain & suffering. Everyone likes to make sure that, they put their lives together. Most of them make efforts to bring peace. Some quit half way down to the road and few people, stay on the road of recovery and make progress! They become resilient and inspire millions. So, let’s talk about the road that we all can take to recover ourselves from adversity. Recovery is hard. The bad things are very attractive. We don’t have to force ourselves to do toxic things. Anything that is bad, it’s easy! It makes you happy for a while (as long as you are consuming it) once, you are done doing it, you realize that, ‘I shouldn’t have done it’. But, it’s too late to do anything. Maybe, that’s why recovery is very hard cause, you are in a total grip of your bad addictions. Believe me everything is not gone yet! Road to recovery starts with a tough decision. Anything we say or do, takes a decision. For a person who is desperate to make incremental changes in his life has to start with a decision- A tough decision. A tough decision is like a poison at first. At the end, it’s like honey or a chocolate (whatever you call it, I leave it up to you). Once, you make a decision to bring an order back in your life, there will be millions of times at least, you will still go back to your previous depressing habits. It’s all fine. If you can’t fully eradicate an addiction (let’s suppose alcohol) then, for heaven’s sake make a genuine effort to reduce its consumption. First make the decision and stick to it no matter what. If you find anything interesting while on the road to recovery, be flexible, adopt good ideas and implement them! You are not all alone on this road of recovery! Remember this, your life is not just yours. Your life deeply impacts your relationship with your own purpose, God, parents, girlfriend/spouse, kids, friends. If you truly care about anyone of them then, please don’t quit. Just hang in there. Anytime you make the same mistake, get your focus back on the track. Think about the time when you are most vulnerable to your bad addictions. Note down the trend and replace it with good habits. For instance, if you think that, it’s the evening time of the day I drink and lose control, one thing you can do is that, get out of your room/ house either, start walking or hit a gym. Set priorities to thrive in the world!Once, you do it on consistent basis, your urge to binge drink will gradually lose control. Have the courage to disappear. You have to take the decision at the speed of light! Being grateful helps a lot.  Recovery is impossible, if you are not grateful. Write down all the things that you are grateful for.Think Hard on Paper Every night, when you hit the bed be sure to say thanks to the universe. If you like to pray at night time, make sure you do it. Learn to make positive connection with the universe! At the end, I would like to say…may God give you enough strength and courage to get through the bad times. Amen!

This world is made up of 2 things- good and bad. They both complement each other.  they have  a critical role to play in our lives to decide our fate So, in this blog post. let’s discuss about them in detail. The role of good in this world Good things (meaningful) bring order and some sort of certainty & clarity in our lives. Good qualities in people make the world to move forward. Good is an initial stage to become great! Anytime the world has encountered any problem, noble people have step forward to make sure that, the world gets back on the track of functioning. It’s a hard job to find solutions of problems that force us to cease moving forward. The world needs more than ever before good people who are physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually tough to seek truth. We should also be cautious of good things too! Good things have hidden cost which can only be seen when things are not going well! We need to make sure that the things that are made for our comfort by no means throw us under the bus. The purpose of good things is to make your life easy, not lazy. Have the courage to be grateful to all the good things are happening in your life but, never allow them to control you. Keep your eyes wide open. The critical role of bad things Bad things are full of chaos. No body likes mess in their lives ( I don’t for sure!) For a while, we might be hostile, full of resent when things are not going as per the plan but, there is another perspective we need to look: whatever the bad things happening in our lives, there is always a message hidden behind the curtains. All we need to grab the courage to take few steps forward and lift the curtains to seek truth! Courage will make your life a Blessing Sure, it takes time & efforts to take the responsibilities of all the bad deeds that have happened to you. It’s hard at first but, it’s worth it. People who have become good in their lives know that, there is always something to learn during tough times. Resilience, determination and strength always build up when things are upside down. From bad to good I genuinely believe that, there is a possibility of ‘bad’ in this world. Even you like it or not things are not always perfect. If there was no ‘bad’ then, we wouldn’t have appreciated good things or valued them. When we put our shit together, we become humble & gain senses to look at the world with new approach. Going from bad to good teaches us how to be courageous and treat others with respect. Bad things are necessary because there is always lesson at the end and good things are the sweet fruits when ‘bad’ is treated well with patience.

From where does the strength & courage to do things come from? Think…. It’s not just food, it’s not just what we watch or read. The ultimate source to do something comes from within. Your soul is the foundation for your strength and the courage to do something meaningful. In this blog post, we will try to learn in detail the importance of our souls. According to the various scriptures, physical body (human body) can be destroyed. It can be tortured and can be burned out but, there is no way someone can kill the soul. The soul (eternal) is indestructible, inexhaustible & immeasurable. Our souls make us great! The reason why our souls make us great because, it gives us the strength & courage to do mighty things in our lives. Our bodies can become gravely ill but, one thing that never changes is the soul. What we constantly say to ourselves, we become exactly that individual. Our souls listen to us whatever we say, whatever we think. It is imperative to have great relationship with the spirit. The way we talk, sit and walk deeply impact our inner self. By indulging in toxic habits we continue to erode our spirit and once, spirit is gone, there is no value attached to human beings. We got choices Freedom of choice One thing, we need to be thankful for is the gift of freedom to choose. We might not have any choice when it comes to picking our parents but, we are free to choose our habits. It is tempting to go for bad habits because, they look attractive during the initial stages and then, we get lost in the never ending cycle of pain and suffering. It is in our hands how much good or bad we can make our lives. We already know the consequences of worse things. We are aware about the fact that, malevolent things bring poison to the world because in our lives, we have faced the brutal history of the things that, almost eradicated the entire life from the face of the Earth. I think that, one of the major reason why the world is still functioning because of majority of people have good spirit (soul) plus have the courage to find the beauty even if the things are not going as per the plan. This world needs great souls. Whenever feeling low or discouraged, get back to work . Go and talk to yourself. Pick up something to make things work out in your life. With all the strength & the courage of your soul, do good things but, it all starts with the decision. It all starts with the choice. What’s your choice?

We are so fortunate that, we got freedom of choice. We have the ability to think and plan our future. It is the freedom of choice that makes us unique. We have the ability to Decide what’s best for us. We have the mighty will to make our lives a better one. Let’s discuss about this special power in detail. Why Freedom of choice? The basic question we need to ask is this- why are we given freedom of choice? Are we special? May be we are. We are born on this planet for a special cause. We all are on a mission. A mission to build, create and value lives that would compel the world to move forward. For some people, it is easy to find the purpose. For some, it’s not that simple. I think that, freedom of choice is given by God to us so that, we can decide between good and bad. Why Freedom of choice really matters ? Everything we do or say is completely dependent on our choices we make daily. As I said it earlier, we have the ability to think because, of this skill, we are different from the rest of species on this living planet. It is up to us to decide what kind of thoughts to bring into our mind. We have the capacity to choose between heaven and hell. We have the power to decide between righteousness & unrighteousness. Constructive ThinkingI think that, Freedom of choice is a dangerous power because, anything we choose (good or bad) our actions reflect those choices may be that’s why, we need to rationally. Components of freedom of Choice We are so fortunate that, we have the ability to think and take actions in our lives. We all think about the future and take actions accordingly. Better future depends upon what choices we make in the present. It is not guaranteed that if, we are thinking good about our future, good things are going to happen. For that purpose, we need to open to the challenges in our mind by keeping our focus on all the sacrifices we are making in our present for better tomorrow. By choosing right attitude, everything is going to be just fine at the end. We have freedom of choice when it comes to show our emotions. Here is a beautiful quote I would like to share- “Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on- it isn’t manly to be enraged.Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn’t give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance – unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.” -MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 11.18.5b At the end, I would like to say that, The greatest gift we got from God is the freedom of choice. May we choose righteousness over unrighteousness, humility over pride, Purpose over pleasure!

If you ask me the most scary challenge that our society is facing right know is the challenge of mental health. Every day, it’s so painful to see people mostly youngsters are becoming the victims of this disease. It needs our utmost attention. We need to find permanent solution of this problem. So, let’s talk about it in this blog post. How did we end up in this mess? The fundamental thing we need to ask ourselves is this – how did we allow our people (especially youngsters) to fall in the tragic hell of terrible mental health? Have we forgotten that, we have inherited the land from our forefathers who made the ultimate sacrifices of their lives to preserve, protect and defend the core values focus on the fundamentals of life (Responsibility, provide, protection & leadership) of the society. Ever-since, The Earth was created, there has always been countless number of wars- major and minor ones. The last big war we had to witness was WW2. Tens of Millions gave up their lives to defeat nihilism and unrighteousness from the face of the world. There is a lot to be learned from history. History lessons will keep on repeating until, they are learned and implemented properly to lead the society out of chaos. Modern crisis of mental health When we forget our history or try to keep the brutal lessons of our history (how the world suffers when evilness reigns) away from our kids, we suffer immensely. I genuinely thinks that, Mainstream media, our governments and our institutions are busy in fabricated and selling senseless ideas like gender politics, gender pronouns, easy availability of credit, drugs, focusing too much on rights than responsibilities & explicit content to our people. Believe me or not, we might be ignoring the consequences for now but, 10 years or may be 15 years from now, we have to pay a hefty price for all the things we are doing to make our kids weak and away from real things. The solution… There can not be one answer to this problem. Different people come with different solutions. Most people look for cheap solutions like (instant gratification) cheap solutions might divert your attention for some time but for how long? The question is worth asking. Mental health problems requires mental toughness. Mental toughness Tough times shape you for the best can only be found in having a purpose or taking care of your responsibilities consistently. Sure it’s going to take some time to know what your purpose is but, it’s way better than hiding yourself in your house! Have the courage to pick up some responsibilities to justify your existence!

This blog post is dedicated to all of those who think that, burden of responsibilities is making them stressful. What is burden of responsibilities? What exactly it is? Responsibility is a sense of duty of doing something or a process of carrying out some kind of an activity or activities to accomplish something (meaningful). The immense pressure of responsibilities are felt when things are not going according to the plan. The burden is felt when actual results are far off from the desired results or when, the sense of duty doesn’t align with the goals. Why there is a burden? In order to make progress in life or take care of responsibilities, it requires action. Sometimes, it requires lots of action. because, the energy which we could’ve used for taking small action is staying within the body & thus creating negative results and we suffer in our imagination. A culture of freedom and rights Don’t get me wrong, freedom and rights are what give birth to life and creativity. We are living in a free world ( North America). We are fortunate that, we got more rights than any other person living in the communist regimes. We have the right to criticize the senseless policies of our governments whenever we can, whatever tool (social media) we like. Rights give us the freedom to choose/think, freedom to defend ourselves when we are in trouble(as long as someone knows how to apply them). The culture of rights and freedom works as long as it is checked constantly but how? Responsibilities are what keeping the world in function & order. There are 2 sides of the coin. Rights and responsibilities complement each other. We on the other hand just like to talk about rights, rights and more rights but, less is said about responsibilities in free world. When there is an election season every politicians talk about rights. Everybody tries to sell rights to people especially to young ones. My issue is this, young people already have gotten enough rights. They are desperate for responsibilities. They are craving for meaning.The meaning of life is embedded in taking heavy burden of responsibilities on your shoulders and have the courage to bear the cost associated with it.Essence of life Our societies, governments and schools are doing the opposite of this. They are making young people (especially young men) to lose control over their lives by telling them that “we are living in a depressing world. It’s okay to stay confuse about your gender. It’s okay to be weak and complain. It’s okay to get lost in Netflix & video games. It’s okay to remove the essence of God from daily lives & disrespecting parents when they trying to enforce boundaries or rectify their kids lives” The world is paying a terrible cost. By tricking our kids to senseless political debates, we are paying a hefty price. Young men have become fundamentally weak and confused. How to bring back the world to order from chaos? In order to bring life back on the track, we need to refocus on real real things. We need to embrace our humble beginnings and sincerely take humble responsibilities towards our lives. It all starts with some purpose & consistently work on it. Picking up some humble goals are the best way to become best version of yourself. I don’t think that, there is any other better way of living a sensible life without facing the burden of your responsibilities. So, let the burden of responsibilities bring the tough character out of you. Maybe that’s what this world needs right now!

There are so many people in this world who put resentment on the top of their list. I wonder why most of our efforts go into vain? Cause, our main focus is on negative energy. In this blog post, let’s try to feed something good to our souls and minds and reprogram our brains to meaningful life. It’s okay if we are saying about, we can’t focus on good things if, majority of things are bad and maybe, that’s why we gotta some work to do to find some solutions to bring life back on the track. Instead of putting our faith into action, we are giving priorities to the negative energy to dominate us completely from top to bottom. The ultimate problem with humans are we don’t want to do any sacrifices in our present circumstances for better tomorrow. We are constantly looking for the results in present by just dreaming about our future. A good future requires decent sacrifices in present. So, sacrifice any kind of resentment and bitterness for your better future. Channelize your resentment into something productive Set priorities to thrive in the world! When majority of your thoughts are about complaining, it badly affects your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being. Here’s the rough example of how does average life look like- working, going back home, watching Netflix or negative news, consuming comfort food, spending time on social media and going back to sleep 2 or 3 in the morning. Waking up with no energy and showing up to work with a cup of coffee . If this is the lifestyle we are having then, we need to sit back and really need to listen to our inner voice and make some small changes Small changes start with making peace deal with your past. Next thing we can do is to have more positive thoughts than negative ones. Paying attention to your thoughts. Next thing we really need to do is to find joy in our work lives. we all need to be grateful about our work lives. At least, the job is paying for our daily bills. Resentment is like Cancer but, there is a solution. It will dominate your soul day by day, month by month and year by year. It’s like a slow death. It erodes your inner voice to almost nothing. Let good faith, humility and courage be your best friends.Humility always wins at the end!

In order to make sure that, this world keeps on functioning well, we really need to understand this- what competence is really all about? So let’s get started. Competence is the ability to do something successfully, effectively and efficiently. If you look the world around you, all successful people/ businesses are competent and that’s why they attract a lot of success and have a lot of political influence (power). A Competent person has a higher position in the hierarchy. A higher position in hierarchy means higher level of responsibilities and with responsibilities comes power. In order to understand the whole game of hierarchies, think about a local restaurant. A manager has more responsibilities than coworkers. He is accountable to the owner of the restaurant. With more responsibilities come more power. Most of the cases a manager has the power to hire/fire people. He has the power to implement the policies to improve the overall structure of the restaurant. In order to reach the top of the Formal chain, One has to be competent. There is no other way around.Consistency is the key It is competent hierarchy system that is keeping the world afloat. Dr Jordan B. Peterson was right when he was talking about the world needs more competent people. For instance, if someone is having heart problems, the family members of that person would look for competent heart specialist at local level to save the life. The same goes with plumbers, electricians, lawyers, world class players, civilians and leaders. In order to move the world forward we constantly need highly skilled people at every level possible otherwise, the world will crumble down.Consistent disciplined daily routine There is no doubt that, when some people reach to the top of the ranking, they become corrupt, evil and try to concentrate the power for their own benefit. The world suffers terribly when highly competent people misuse their power. There is no wonder why people at bottom always resent power. One thing that, you need to take away from this blog post is that, power is just the byproduct of being competent. People are more than happy to pay any price to the highly competent person to solve their problems. A highly qualified person has the ability to lead the world from endless chaos to peace. The world needs more people like Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela to inspire the world. Let’s get our thinking straight. Competence is what keeping us functioning in this world. The sooner you get it, the better it is for you.

I believe that, we can learn as many as skills we want. Just like a baby learns how to walk and talk even though he fails so many times but, he grabs himself up courageously and start walking again. I think we need to have the spirit of an infant to Live our lives. So, let’s start valuing our lives to have a meaning. People often say that, why they should value their lives? They already have so much going on. Their lives are full of misery and resentment so, they can’t really do anything! Well, I say if you have already made your mind that, there is nothing more to a life then, why don’t you just lay in your bed. Have a peaceful sleep and wait for your end time. It’s heartbreaking when most of us have nihilistic view of point about life. If some one is looking to find value in his life then, he should go out to a park and see kids playing. I am sure that, happiness is right there! Why we have stopped valuing our lives? I think that, we have over complicated our lives. We are looking for perfection in everything we do or say. With social media dominating our lives completely, we are seeking more for validation from outside than ever before. Real issues like responsibilities, family values, honesty, consistent discipline and love are losing their essence from our lives. Instead of focusing on the core values that sustain life, main stream media is covering the real issues with gender pronouns, evil social hierarchy structure, power, and status . As long as we are focusing on all of those things that have no give and take relationship with self improvement and realness, we can not grow as an individual. When we stop growing & stop investing in our lives then, there is no way we can provide clear direction to lead the community. What is antidote to misery and resentment? Life is hard. For some people it is tragic. I think that, if we just keep focusing on bad things, bad things will keep happening to us. It is simple law of attraction.Think good and attract happiness We need to start valuing our lives once again despite the fact that, life is not fair. We need to focus more on the fundamentals. Real things like taking care of self, spending time with loved ones & playing with kids to bring real happiness. At the end, I will always choose life and realness cause, that’s what will help me in fulfilling my purpose.